Monday, 27 February 2017

the bird has flown

So....hours and moment have passed since last I wrote.  Things change. My lovely chum has gone back to the land of her birth which happens to be on the other side of the world. I know that in these modern times we can still keep in touch much more readily than in days gone by but it feels very different, knowing that I can't just pop over to see her.

DG has been home and gone back again. It is so lovely to see her but also so lovely knowing that she is doing the thing which she loves.  For me though, there is a gap where she was. This has happened with each of our offspring...they have left...flown...as is right and proper...and the gap they left behind will never be filled in the same way again. This is how it should be..I know. Except of course for JBoy. He is still here and will be for the foreseeable future. However M and I are becoming very aware of our age and the fact that we won't be able to do all we do with JBoy for much longer...but the alternative feels too hard.

the birds have flown
All but one
Who stays,
Entwined
Enrobed with parental love
As we age around him

Thursday, 2 February 2017

the early start

So....I was awoken this morning at 11.38pm...so technically last night. Not very funny but if I don't laugh about it, I might cry!!! #Choosing to laugh.  I am just learning about these hashtags..still not sure of their purpose but I have been told I have to do it!!

JBoy did sleep a bit on and off after that so it isn't all bad. We listened to the twinkletinkle toy ad nauseam but I must have fallen asleep for a little while because I had a dream that I had smashed the twinkletinkle toy into a million pieces....but it was just a dream...or a nightmare, maybe.

The bus was the Right Bus this morning but with the Wrong driver so it was spectacularly late, leaving JBoy and I outside in the 'mild' February weather which may be mild for February but which feels positively fierce after an hour. Shivering, he climbed thankfully aboard whilst I went into the house to thaw. Having thawed, I ventured out again ,but this time with my big thick coat, to purchase the potatoes and have a little potter about. Not working today but I did stop to admire  'my' window (I was allowed and even encouraged to do the children's window yesterday...oh I had such fun.....) before forging forwards to the supermarket where I managed to purchase enough potatoes to keep the Boy happy for a couple of days.  I think baked today. Easiest for me and with my brain in a slightly mushed state I think easy is the way to go.

An hour before the Boy returns and the house is filled once again with the sound of singing Santas and noisy cars.
#Christmasallyear

How am I doing with the hashtags???? Who knows? Who cares???

The End


Monday, 30 January 2017

monday monday

So....Monday, Monday...here you are again. I have had a bit of a bleak few days but today is looking brighter...it's weird really. There is no rhyme nor reason to these fluctuations in mood..unless I am linked in some way to the moon....stranger things have been suggested!   JBoy was particularly grumpy this morning, for no apparent reason. Maybe he too was having a January moment. Nothing was right for him today. I thought I might have a battle royale to get him on the Bus but thankfully, the most marvellous Escort took over and persuaded him that on the bus was the place to be. Off he went, grumping all the way.

I then walked briskly into town. A brisk walk is often a tonic to JBoy induced stresses. Today was cold and grey but I have felt lighter and brighter today than I have for many a day...see, no rhyme nor reason.

My head is full of thoughts..of course, my Offspring are all in there. I journal as well as occasional blogging. I have  used books and books of notebooks in my time. I love a good notebook.....if in doubt, buy a notebook and a lovely pen. It works a treat! In my current journal,when I think about my children, I write their names down in different colours. Then decorate the page with drawings, words ....whatever feels appropriate. I have also recently developed a handy system....you will see the pun soon.....each finger represents a child, their partner or their children..they are literally at my fingertips. If I need to think and, yes, pray, for any given person at any given moment, I can literally hold the relevant digit and bring that person, those persons to mind.  It works for me at the moment.

We all find our own ways of doing things.. coping with things. Mine is writing them down and sometimes drawing them. Sometimes only a drawing will do as the words just won't come...I have written a diary or journal since I was about 9. It's part of who I am. They became more intense when JBoy was born as it was the only place I could let out my pain and agonised grief. At that point, I had three Others to keep relatively sane for...so all my pent up emotions went onto paper and occasionally into a silent scream when no one was watching...

There have been other profoundly difficult times in my life when journaling became the lifebelt in my storm. So, for me ,it works or at least helps a little.I know it doesn't work for everyone and I admire people who find other coping mechanisms. It is important to find one...a coping mechanism that is. I hope that if anyone is reading this, you have found yours.

Bye for now
THe End

Off to peel the potato for the Boy.......some things never change!





Sunday, 29 January 2017

sunday

So..today is Sunday. Neither M nor I feel much able to Parent today. As there is no one else, we will have to. It's at times like this that I wish we had some external support. Churches we have attended have not been able, for whatever reason, to stand in that place and help us. We have no family nearby and today we feel very much alone in a world full of people.
We aren't alone. I know that. We aren't the only ones who feel stranded. Alone. Caught. I have no idea what the answer is..and until I find it, we shall have to soldier on and be the parents JBoy needs, despite ourselves. It's what we do. It's what hundreds of parents do.


Let's have a standing ovation for parents everywhere...for people who do even when they feel like they can't.....

The end

P.S. Sorry for the moany content of the most recent posts....clearly having a January moment

😏


Saturday, 28 January 2017

Saturday musings

So..today has been a day of mixed events. JBoy woke up grumpy and has grumped around most of the day. We managed to walk into town. That was quite pleasant. We stood on the town square. That was quite pleasant....if a little chilly. We walked around the town a little. That was quite pleasant. Then, after an hour or so M and I were chilled to our bones and needed to come home...this was when JBoy became less than pleasant. He fought. He pushed. He grabbed. He fell to the ground. He tried to uproot plants from the carefully planted planters which grace the town square. He was generally unpleasant. After repeated comments such as, 'time to go home now' and 'shall we go home for a sandwich we managed to stagger from planter to lamppost, from lamppost to shop door etc all the way home. On rival at our humble abode we were all exhausted. Thai is was one of the less appealing aspects to the day.

A jolly thing which happened this afternoon was that some of our lovely friends came for a cup of tea and a piece of cake. Yes, they tried the wedding cake layer 2. It was generally approved by all. Hurrah. That was a happy part of the day.

We , M nd I, have discovered the joys of Netflix so the latter part of the afternooon nd the early part of this evening has been spent in watching a film on Netflix. Sometimes we had the sound on...what a treat........JBoy's sensibilities are far too delicate for us to have the sound on all the time!!...that has been a pleasant thing.

So. A day which has been good in parts.it is these good parts which enable us to cope with the less good ones. Maybe a maxim for life.....the good parts enable us to do the less good parts. I shall try to remember that!!!

Much love to all and sundry

The End

Friday, 27 January 2017

Flamingo


blanket



Blankets

Of snow
Of leaves
Of mist


Blankets


Of warmth
Of comfort
Of protection

Blankets

All embracing
Complete
Universal

So many meanings,
So many images
For something so


Simple


I love blankets. I make blankets. A blanket makes everything feel better. Maybe that's why JBoy likes clutching a blanket. It makes his world feel better. I can go with that.